Belly Dance Drama? Stand Up & Don't Be a Door Mat!
In society, strong women are often given cruel and unfair monikers, but being a strong person is one of the best things you can do for yourself. In some circles, the term 'Belly Dance Diva' may be used to describe a performer or belly dance student with those traits. A common misconception is that a strong person is also a difficult one, however, you don’t have to be pushy, argumentative, or rude in order to be strong.
When dealing with a strong personality, one major mistake often made is assuming you know what the other person wants or feels. Ask them to clarify their position first, so you know where they stand. Then you have a starting point for your own side based on knowledge instead of assumptions.
Often, difficult people are quick to anger. When dealing with someone who fits that bill, keep your voice level and conversational. For most people, it’s harder to argue with someone who is pleasant. Even some of the most fractious people can be diffused with a smile and kindness, but keep in mind, the only reactions you can truly control are your own. Refuse to allow yourself to be drawn into an argument, even if you need to tell the other person you no longer want to discuss it, but can revisit the discussion at a time when tempers are not so high.
Maintain eye contact, breathe, and have faith in your own decisions. When you say no, mean it. It may feel awkward or nerve-wracking the first few times, but with practice, it will become more comfortable.
Also, don't be so headstrong that you are not willing to negotiate. Negotiating does not mean letting the other person step all over you; it means compromise.
And if everything you try fails, and the situation becomes volatile or impossible, don't be afraid to walk away. In life, you will encounter some people you simply cannot negotiate or reason with, people who must absolutely have their way. In those cases, walking away is not only the best thing to do, it’s the strong thing to do.